WTFbean: July 2016

12 Reasons Why Hitting Rock Bottom Is The Best Thing That Can Ever Happen To You

About 4 years ago, I had flat-out hit rock bottom, emotionally, financially, mentally & spiritually. The crash was painful in every way and I finally had no choice but to face myself brutally, painfully and honestly.

Years on, I look back with immense gratitude for the incredible gifts that time bestowed upon me. It instilled in me a deep trust that the universe did actually have my back, contrary to external appearances and bank balances.

You might think I’m crazy for saying this but I’d do it all again, in a heartbeat, for the incredible insights and growth I gained through, what were most definitely my darkest hours.

But like any good adventure, it’s only worthwhile if you come back having learned some solid lessons and with wisdom to share from having survived the fall.

And so, with 20/20 hindsight, here are my top 12 reasons why everyone should aim to hit rock bottom at least once in their lifetime:

1. At the bottom, you realise just how far off course you were and that your life choices were simply not sustainable. It’s in those dark moments of despair that your anger and frustration become so great, you declare once and for all, never to accept such mediocrity from yourself or from others ever again.

2. At the bottom, all your dysfunctional behaviours are finally revealed. If you never hit your lowest point, the dysfunctions continue to go unnoticed and unchecked, playing out under the denial radar and inevitably creating bigger dysfunctions and a harder fall down the track. Until the bubble bursts, you cleverly delude yourself into thinking everything is juuuuust great and your life ends up being built on a big fat lie and a false foundation.

3. Hitting rock bottom is the beginning of questioning EVERYTHING that you’ve ever thought to be true. You question your motives, other people’s motives, your beliefs, your fears, why you did things, why you didn’t do things, why you attracted certain people and circumstances, why you succeeded, why you failed. The very fabric of your life is turned upside down and examined in raw detail. It’s from this point that you build again, from the ground up, with a fresh perspective based on your renewed sense of clarity.

4. At the bottom, your disempowering patterns and behaviours become glaringly obvious and the triggers that kept you repeating those behaviour patterns come into sharp focus. You realise that hitting rock bottom was not only inevitable but necessary because those behaviours were simply not conducive to your growth. On top of that, and perhaps most importantly, all the roles you’d been playing pop into your conscious awareness. It becomes clear you’ve been a kind of puppet, playing the same role over and over, creating the same dynamics over and over and keeping the drama going over and over, like a well paid actor in a soap opera. It’s not until you break the mould and start the journey back to your true self that you stop playing those old scratched records and begin to create new conscious outcomes.

5. You realise at the bottom, that you were, in fact, not where you thought you were in life. It was your ego running the show with grandiose ideas about what you could do, not realising you didn’t yet have the foundation to successfully accomplish those things. That's when your ego begins to loosen its death grip on you, and you start to trust life and choose to live in the present moment more often. As you surrender to your higher self more and more, you come into alignment with your right purpose and right life path. And if feels good.

6. You gain humility. You see that life is not black and white and that you don’t know everything. In fact, you realise you know very little and you decide to become a student of life rather than a juror.

7. You gain compassion. You understand what it’s like for people who are in deep levels of despair, shame, guilt and fear. You can’t help but come back from the bottom without feeling immense compassion for all that humanity endures and the human condition.

8. You’re able to let go of everything, because NOTHING is working anyway! Letting go of the old creates space for the new and soon new ideas, people, opportunities, talents and gifts start to flood into your experience. As you empty your cup, so to speak, you fill it back up with stuff that you actually want, instead of accepting what was unconsciously passed onto you. Life hands you a fresh cup of reality.

9. After you’ve hit the bricks, you, perhaps for the first time, begin to accept full responsibility for all the outcomes in your life. You see that blaming is futile, that complaining is dumb & that making excuses is for the unenlightened. You realise it was you who created all the good and all the bad in your life and only you can pull yourself out of the dark hole you dug for yourself so you can finally become whole.

10. The good news is, once you’ve hit the bottom you know you can’t possibly go any lower and you realise the bottom is actually a great springboard from which to push yourself up to the surface way from the darkness and back into the light.

11. Hitting the bottom wakes you up to how you were relying on externals to make you happy. Instead of needing outside validation, you begin to trust yourself and start the journey within to find your own sense of self, your own sense of purpose and your own validation. This new inner sanctuary becomes the foundation for your new happy and meaningful life.

12. And finally, after hitting your lowest point, you become enormously grateful for all that you have from that time forward. You’re sure that it can only get better from here, and it does. Simple things like, a smile from a stranger, fresh food in the fridge, warm clothes on your body, a comfy bed, your good health, all become things to treasure. Your life is a constant prayer of gratitude to the universe and to yourself for having the courage to move beyond hard times and choose LIFE, when you could have chosen a number of other options just to make the pain go away.

The gems mined in your darkest moments are what give you a depth, a courage, a wisdom and a richness that can’t be learned elsewhere. And your ability to fly is in direct proportion to your willingness and courage to face your version of rock bottom. If you’ve ever been at the bottom and bounced back to tell the story, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

If you’re currently sitting on rock bottom and still chafing your behind, you’re probably cursing this post, but as someone who’s been there, done that, got the t-shirt, I can tell you that you’ll thank the experience (and the chafing) in years to come as the best thing that ever happened to you.

Only once you are willing to explore the depths of your being can you truly be of service in the world. Only when the old foundations have come down can you begin to build again on new and solid ground.

This is the gift of rock bottom --> aim for it.

If you like this post, encourage someone else who might have hit rock bottom