Legalize Gay Marriage

I want Gay Marriage legalized in Virginia so I can finally get a divorce cos in order for me to get divorced I or Deborah have had to been a resident in Connecticut for at least 12 months and neither one of us is or was a resident there. So my only option for getting a divorce is waiting until Virginia legalizes gay marriage.

Divorce

Okay so I can't get a divorce because neither one of us lived in Connecticut for at least 12 months. The other option was contacting a lawyer in Virginia that handled gay family law but unfortunately there are no lawyers in virginia in the legalshield network that handle gay family law. There are lawyers in Virginia that handle gay family law but just not in the Legalshield Network. So I am just back to being stuck in a marriage that I do not want to be in. To me its just a piece of paper blah. Fuck the marriage it never meant anything to me anyway. And truth be known she pushed me into it in the first place. We hadn't even been together 6 months before we got married. Like I said, its just a piece of paper that doesn't mean shit to me. Jen and I have been together longer then Deborah and I were and our relationship is so much better. We don't need a piece of paper to say we're married cos in our eyes we are married. We have rings that we have given each other and in our hearts we feel married and we act married too. We have a great relationship. We have our ups and downs and we fight like a married couple but we make it work and we have made it last. We are faithful and comitted. Jen helped me get off drugs and clean up my life. I have changed dor the better and I am a much better person. I am more responsible, I pay my own bills amd on time. My life is just so much better than it was when I was with Deborah. Being miserable, feeling stuck, being depressed and unhappy is not my idea of a good marriage or a good relationship.

Thoughts

Mom and I are going to go to Starbucks later. I asked her to make me more coffee and she said we'll go to Starbucks lol. I guess she didn't want to make coffee. I am waiting for her to get ready so I can take her to go look for two jobs. She is in there drinking her tea though so eventually she will get ready. Kinda my fault because I had a late start today because I slept in then it took me awhile to get motivated this morning. I am still waiting for the lawyer to call and he said he would call mid to late morning and its past that so hopefully he will call with good news since he is going to be calling later then he said. I sure hope he calls with good news because the suspense is killing me. I just want this divorce to be over and done with. But I will tell you one thing for sure, there is no way I am moving out of state just so I can get a divorce. I am not changing my life so I can get a divorce. Eventually they will make gay marriage legal in Virginia and then I can get a divorce. I don't have anything so its not like she can get anything from me because I have nothing to give or take. I am broke I have no money and I have no money in my bank accounts. I have my vehicle but its in my mom's name. And I don't own any property and we don't have children together, thankfully. I am just done with the whole situation and ready to be completely done with her. We all make mistakes in our life and that was one of my mistakes. I jumped into something with a woman old enough to be my mother. And I say that because her kids are not that much younger than me. The age difference didn't make at first but reality set in and it just would have never worked out with the age difference between us. I can't stand someone to try to control me, my parents couldn't even control me and I will be damned if someone else tries to control me. I am my own person and I am independent. I don't like depending on anyone else and I haven't since. I depend on myself. I was always broke with her and I didn't have a job and wasn't that responsible. Getting away from her helped me. Then I met Jen and I became more responsible and got a job and still have the job and life has gotten much better since then. Getting away from her was the best thing for me because it helped me grow up a lot. I felt stuck and alone when I was with her. And we always had tons of people living with us and that is what I like about Jen we don't have anyone living with us but our fur babies. I don't want people living with us it just causes so many problems. I don't even like people staying at my house overnight. I have changed a lot since then and I am a different person but a better person for sure. I like who I am now but I didn't like who I was then. And I am drug free thanks to Jen. I am doing good in life, we get by, we make it through. Jen and I love each other and respect each other.

Divorce

So the lawyer called and he was getting my info and explaining things to me and as the conversarion went on I realized he didn't know I was talking about a gay divorce. He was talking about jurisdictions and Connecticut and us residing in Virginia. So I told him that was the thing that we had got married in Connecticut because gay marriage is legal there. And he said ohhh and told me that was something that his law firm has never handled but he would do research on it. He sounded all cool about it when I told him it was a gay divorce. He said he is not sure but he thinks Connecticut doesn't have jurisdiction. But he is going to do some research and call me in the morning. So hopefully when he calls me tomorrow he will have good news for me. At least I am hoping. I think I will pray about it tonight. I am so hoping I can get a divorce. I am so way past done being married.

Update

The lawyers office called and gave me the number to a CT Lawyer with a file #. So I called him & he was with someone so hopefully he will call back today. The VA Clinic called and I have an appt on the 6th about my dizzy spells. Went into work to get coffee and ended up staying for awhile talking. The new girl is training, I think she will do fine. We are six dollars away from reaching twelve hundred dollars raised. I tried to motivate Cheryl into getting more donations. Jen is off today as well and on the couch sleeping. I am about to start on laundry. I was outside with Bella and Cinder but they wanted in. I am drinking Pumpkin Pie Spice Juva Roast Coffee and its good. I am going to clean house after I start laundry.

What A Great Day So Far

I called legal shield about my divorce and an attorney is supposed to call me back today. I figured I would get that out of the way. Hopefully this divorce will go smoothly. Went and got my coffee and while I was at work I climbed the sign and changed the gas price up one cent. Then I dropped off Jen's medicine and headed to Mom and Dad's house. Zeus was outside waiting for me. Lol. About to go check my email and work in my online class. Fun fun.